However, do I think it could have been communicated better? 

Yes, absolutely.

From reading your question, am I safe to assume you’re a direct person in all aspects of life?

I image you’re quite logically minded; you see thinks as clear blacks, whites, and can confidently make decisions based on the information presented before you.

I image you also get frustrated by others who aren’t able to talk so directly on matters in hand, or who don’t seem to make decisions as quickly and confidently as yourself.

We’re all different, Tom. Every single one of us.

Some of us see the world in a more nuanced rainbow, a kaleidoscope of colours that seems to be constantly shifting and evolving. Those types of people take longer to make decisions because they’re likely considering a far wider breadth of information than you yourself would. I’m doing it now in fact, in my response to you about a simple question on hairy bottoms (and it’s likely agitating you, isn’t it?).

What does nuanced decision making have to do with your sexual desire for a smooth bottom?

Healthy relationships happen when we can understand that not everyone operates the same way as us.

Healthy relationships happen when we can see that others have different needs to us.

What might not offend you, could be terribly offensive to another person – and I can see how a bottom would be highly offended by being told their bum is too hairy for you.